Elice Ivy Writes

Starting the dreadlock was going to be the easy part of the journey once I told people about the second part.  I had finally come to the decision that I was going to have weight lose surgery.  I had also come to the conclusion that I wasn’t telling anybody. Do you know how many times we have had these conversations over the years? Did you see what that child went and did to herself? I don’t know why she went and did that. That girl knows she didn’t need to let them people cut on her she look sick. I know I’m not the only one.  We have never once thought about the person carrying around all that extra weight and what it is, they feel. How much pain they are in on a daily basis and then we decided to open our mouths and give our two cents worth. Yeah, I just wasn’t up for the bullshit and I have defiantly reached the point in my life where I know how to move in silence. So, I began my journey. Like a boss! Making plans! Picking out clothes. Planning a life! But what’s that ...

The permission that I felt that I was given to step from my box was freeing and liberating, but to look down and see the box wasn’t even closed anymore made me stop and take a look at the things that I have been thru to get to this point.   And I’m not talking about the everyday struggles that everyone has had to deal with or even the ups and downs of life. Hell, we fight those battles so often we fight them in our sleep.   I just think about the journey that I began last May. I didn’t have a million conversations about it. I didn’t stop and take a poll of my closest family and friends. I have learned a long time ago that allowing everyone to have an opinion in your life is a mistake. I talked to my husband I made two decisions that I knew were going to be big and have huge impacts on my life going forward.   The first was starting dreadlocks.     For some people, it’s not that big but for those that know hair, it’s huge. It’s a commit that’s not easily gotten...

            At the end of the year that must not be named in one of the groups that I belong to on Facebook there was this meme that started with “In 2021 I will be a Black Woman that does and the rest was flashing things like does something uncomfortable once a week for my business, release things that no longer serve me, or make wise decisions live as a true example trust my intuition take more risks to follow my dreams             In order to see which one you are you only have to do a screenshot and whatever your screen captured that’s what was yours I got In 2021, I will be a Black Woman that is unapologetic.            Simple words right. It’s just a meme and we read a thousand a day, but for some reason, this one hit differently. I felt my spine straighten, I felt my neck roll, and that smirk form on my face. Yeah, I thought they j...